To make a long story short, the ultrasound was pretty easy (though Sylvie still hated every second of it), but the VCUG was very difficult and pretty traumatic, and ended up being a bust. They couldn't get accurate results and determined that while Sylvie definitely had renal reflux, the full nature could not be determined. So we were put on a yearly regimen of daily antibiotics, a very low dose to keep her urine sterile and prevent future UTIs. The hope being that Sylvie, like the majority of children with renal reflux, would outgrow the condition. We were told to come back in a year, at which point we'd discuss our options.
Fast forward to today, our follow-up visit. The urologist had me take Sylvie in for another renal ultrasound this morning, followed by a visit with him to discuss the results. The ultrasound was easy-peasy as I expected, but again Sylvie hated every minute of it. I have to remind myself though that this is a kid that cries when doctors check her ears or something equally benign! So although many tears erupted, she was just fine! After our visit with the radiologist we went to the urologist, where we proceeded to wait for over 2 hours in his waiting room!!! It was pretty awful, and I thought at one point that the parents were going to unite in an uproarious and hostile take-over of the place. The waiting room was tiny, there were at least a dozen of us, plus kids. It was hectic, but Sylvie was a champ and happily played the entire time. Me, not so much.
Though I forgot my anger over the long wait as soon as the doctor saw us, he's just got a very nice manner about him. He had all of Sylvie's films spread out on light boards around the room, and proceeded to tell me that Sylvie's bladder and both kidneys looked absolutely perfect. Healthy, growing on target, just perfect. At our appointment last year she had a slight issue with her right kidney, but that was gone this time around. Everything looked great, and as far as he's concerned, he thinks she has outgrown the reflux. Hooray! But, and of course there has to be a but, we can't actually prove that she has outgrown the reflux without a repeat VCUG.
What I like about this doctor is how upfront he is, but how much he trusts the parents to make decisions for their own children, while he guides us through the process. At one point I had to say to him "please, if this was YOUR daughter, what would you do?" because I felt like he was trusting me too much to make a decision! The bottom line is that he really does want to do another VCUG, but he wants to wait as long as possible, simply for Sylvie's emotional well-being. He wants to wait until Sylvie is potty trained, so that she can #1. hold her urine in and have an accurate test and #2. so that the process and trauma of the test doesn't negatively impact her readiness for potty training. He explained that she might get so freaked out and upset by the experience that it could cause major regression with potty training.
And of course, there is a but on top of the initial but. While he does want to wait on the VCUG, he also doesn't want to keep Sylvie on the antibiotics for too long. He said another year or so is fine, but that we don't want to keep her unnecessarily on them any longer than she needs to be.
And one other thing to consider! I can have Sylvie sedated for the next VCUG. I was under the impression that we could do a mild sedation, to just keep her somewhat calm during the test, but the doctor explained today that this is no longer an option. Apparently the anesthesiologists at our local hospital don't approve of this anymore, since nearly every experience they have had with children under partial sedation was that the child would fall asleep or be totally calm, until the moment of insertion of the catheter. At which point most children get so upset and worked up that it counters the whole point of sedation. So, if we were to go the sedation route, it would be general anesthesia. I brought up the point that if we plan on sedating her regardless of when we do it, it might be better to do the test early than later, assuming that she's healthy and can then be taken off the antibiotics as soon as possible. He agreed that if sedation is our definite choice, there is no need to wait for her "readiness" for the test.
Phew!! Is everyone still following me?
Okay, so my options are as follows:
1. schedule the VCUG for this summer, with sedation. Hope hope hope that Sylvie is totally free of the reflux, and be done with the antibiotics and Dr. Fleischer completely! The drawbacks to this option are the whole general sedation thing, along with the possibility that she may still have reflux, and will just need another VCUG a year from now anyway. The plus of this option is potentially having this all behind us, if the test shows she's outgrown the reflux.
2. schedule the VCUG for next summer, keeping Sylvie on antibiotics for the next year. With or without sedation. Drawback to this option is that we'd need to keep her on the antibiotics for another year, which may possibly be totally unnecessary.
So dear readers, what would you do? As far as John and I are concerned, not doing the VCUG is NOT AN OPTION. As the doctor said today, sure, I could go that route, some parents do, and he can't force me to do any test. But he felt that it would be "entirely negligent" and not something he advises. And the way I feel about is that I would literally worry every single time Sylvie ran a fever. Is this another UTI? Should I take her in for blood work? And if god forbid she does still have the reflux and did get another UTI, how bad would I feel?!? And how much damage would that do to her bladder and kidneys? It's just not something I'm even considering, so that option is off the table and any comments about it are really not welcome. This is a heart wrenching decision for us so I really don't want to be second guessed on it. Thank you for understanding.
To end on a positive note, here is a picture I took of Sylvie today right before we went in for our marathon waiting room session. (please note the Obama t-shirt - gooooooo Obama!!!)

And here are those beautiful, wonderful, healthy, PERFECT kidneys!

I have to admit that what I really really want to do is just bury my head in the sand and do a lot of LaLaLaLa my kid is healthy everything is fine I'm going to pretend none of this ever happened. Reality can bite me!
8 comments:
Well you wanted opinions, so here goes. I would have the test done now so she would not have to be on any unnecessary medication. This is just what I think I would do, I know you will make the best decision for your family.
Aunt Edith
Yeah, there's a big part of me that thinks that's the best route too. My only concern is that if it comes back that she still does have the reflux and needs to be on another year of meds anyway, it's putting all of us through the test now when she'll just have to go through it again. Arggghhh. So it comes down to the lesser of two evils - the VCUG or a year of (very very low dose) antibiotics. I just can't make a decision!
I know how you feel! All I can say is that you listen to your heart and brain, and somehow (between the both of them) you will make the deciaion that is best for Sylvie. I'm glad the tests have come out in her favor so far. My one experience in something like this is when Dorothy was a young girl, maybe 10 or 11, and she had to have similar treatment. At that age of course she begged me to please stop the treatments, and I foolishly did, because it was becoming traumatic for her. She eventually had to be operated on (when Brian was a baby) I certainly don't want Sylvie to ever have to undergo something like that. If you have faith in her doctor the best advice I can give you is to abide in his wishes. None of us want to see her in any kind of danger, and happily she seems to be on the right track. Hope it stays that way.
Wow. That is a dilemma because general anesthesia is not something to take lightly. Also, if it's general anesthesia, what's to prevent the urine and/or dye from escaping the moment the catheter touches the bladder? I thought the whole point of waiting was so that she could be in control of that...although even at age 3, I find it doubtful that she would be able to control it. Especially if she feels traumatized. I do agree that it would surely be nice to get it over with...AND, being that the kidneys look "perfectly healthy", the chances of her having outgrown it are certainly on Sylvie's side. I think since you've already made up your mind that the VCUG is a given, then you might as well have it done this year.
Did you get a second opinion? Try to find the best Urologist in the country and see what he has to say.
If you need me to come up and help you go through this, let me know.
My prayers are with you.
Love you all, Steppy
Ok, here is my two cents...having been through every bit of this as a kid :) Ok, chances are you are going to have her sedated now or if you wait a year, cause even at 3(or 12 for that matter), it is traumatic for the patient...if I was given the option to be sedated I would have done it. Not to scare you, but I still remeber getting that test done...three times. It was not that is was painful at all, but from a kids perspective I can see why it is scary. So in MY opinion if you know you are gonna do it regardless of what year, then I would think to just do it this summer. I feel you will still elect to have her sedated even if you waited until next year. As parents that's what we do...Not that this compares, but Shelby had a very horrible exp. with the dentist when she was 3, when she was 5 she had to have some dental work done and I elected to have her sedated just to keep her from having to go through the trauma. Ok, there is my two cents...I'm sure you'll have quite a bit of $ after everyone throws in theirs :) I will say, do what you feel is best for your baby!
Shara
Thank you SO much for the comments and thoughts. Shara, it especially helped to hear from you on this, and while this morning I was laying in bed terrified over the thought of putting her under anesthesia and convincing myself I just couldn't go through with it, your comment made me realize I have to, for Sylvie's sake. It REALLY helps to hear your memories of the tests, so THANK YOU. Although I'm so sorry it was so traumatic for you. :(
I think I need to call my doctor for more clarification, because he kept saying that his recommendation was that I wait until next summer, and I'm not sure if that's simply because he wasn't think about the sedation thing and wanted to give Sylvie another year without the test, or if because he really does want to give her kidneys and renal system 1 more year to develop.
I think in the end I'm more scared of having to do this test twice than I am of having her on such a low dose of antibiotics for the next year. Also, and I forgot to mention this in my mini novella of a post, but he did say that I could for the next year give Sylvie half the medicine she's receiving now, so instead of every night, we'd give it to her every other night.
I am so thankful that this is the worst of what we've had to deal with. It seems really big and scary for us but I know it's a piece of cake in the big scheme of things, compared to what other families are going through. It's just so tough when it's your kid that has to go through this stuff, as you all well know.
I think the second opinion from the best Urologist is a great idea. I like having a second opinion any way. Also, I realize the dose is very low, but I would be a little concerned about using it for such a long period.
Aunt Edith
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